This is great.
It’s misleading to say that “things will get better,” in campaigns and in advice given to friends and to ourselves especially. It not only takes the control away, deflects “happiness” onto a circumstance and implies the impossible knowledge that a situation could, in fact, get better – we can only ever hope it will — but it also gives false assuredness and breeds inaction.
The other day, a reader asked me what I thought the most important thing I’d ever learned was. I told her: “you will never be happier than you are right now.” It wasn’t exactly the answer she was looking for I don’t think, but it isn’t the answer any of us are looking for. It’s not as comforting as the alternative. It requires us to stop deflecting. It forces us to get on our knees and do the work.
But that’s the only place from which the real…
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